Would you say it's a lesbian trait to stare at other women?

Sounds like you might be a leaning toward the homosexual side of things. Its ok to look at the opposite sex in admiration or to compare yourself to them. However, if you are getting sexually aroused by it then that is probably a good indicator. If you have no interest in guys then this is also a give away. I say don't worry about it and give it some time. It will work itself out.